From brokenness and hurt I experienced in friendships with girls as a kid up though college, I did not know what healthy friendships with women looked like.
I used to be one of those women that was afraid of other women.
Especially as a teenager and in my early twenties, I found most to be discouraging and judgmental because comparison was unavoidable and young-adult-girl insecurities can be hurtful to the self and others. (I did have a handful of great friendships with girls that I do not want to discount.)
In my late twenties, I have learned a lot from the friendships I've built with the women around me. I learned that we as women need to be the biggest cheerleaders for each other. I learned that most women deal with very similar insecurities and it stems from not trusting God and comparison. My identity must be rooted in Christ if I don't want to play the comparison game with other women.
For the first time in my life, I know what it means to have true friendships with women built on trust, encouragement, and love. Now, I'm taking the next step to learn what it means to live life together in community with these women.
by Sojung Lee
I am grateful for the women that spur me on to love and good works,
that do not neglect to meet with me as can be the habit of some,
but encourage me all the more as they see the Day drawing near.
- Hebrews 10:24-25